Pride and heartache

Song: 'God bless the USA'. (i would put the youtube video up but for some reason it is not liking me..lol)

I listened to this song for the first time 4 days ago. This song inspired me to realize how wonderful my husband is and what he does for his country. But now when I think about it, I remember hearing this song once before. Before now. I had heard it when I was in a Karaoke bar in VA Beach called Wannabees. I am very sure that some one sang it, reasonably well, and I hadn't got a clue what this song was or the lyrics at the time. But the thing was, I broke into tears when I first heard it, because of the fact that the lyrics relate to being an American, and realizing that they are free. Realizing that I too want to be an American, to live in this wonderful country. But being a British Citizen, I have to go through immigration, which at the time of me coming over here, I was not aware of, as I had no intentions of getting married in the slightest. Sometimes when you love someone, it takes over and you want to be with them for the rest of your life, and marriage proposals are spontaneous. We were in Love! When you are in love, nothing else matters. Only he mattered to me at the time, and when I heart the lyrics 'i'm proud to be an American, where at least I know I'm free' span>made me upset because I was scared that they will take that away from me. They will take my whole family. My life away from me, and send me home. My husband is everything to me. He is my life. I don't know if I'll be able to cope not being with him. When I was supposed to go back, I was already engaged. We got engaged a week before I was supposed to return to the UK. But I couldn't bring myself to go back home and I missed my flight. I was a wreck and it was too much of an emotional ordeal for me to leave him. I couldn't get another flight, and because we were already engaged, we planned to get married, and I lived with him. To be part of his life forever. I wasn't aware of the processes to get into the US as I had never planned to live there, and yet I fall in love, meet a wonderful man who would do anything for me, as I would for him and am still scared of losing him, and being sent home. So even now, when I hear that song, it still makes me cry...yet I am proud to be his wife and I am proud to have him in my life!!! <3

Stuck in the middle??

Ever felt like you don't know which way to turn? That you feel you are forced to pick sides in friendship? It shouldn't be your responsibility, nor should you be in that situation. Friends are supposed to stick together yes, but when one is put in a position to lie to someones partner because of problems in their relationship isn't fair on that one person. How is someone supposed to feel when they could potentially lose both friends, just because the two people cannot sort out their problems between them themselves..
Its all good and well that you'd want to talk to your buddies about your problems but asking someone to LIE saying they never saw you when they did to their partner is not fair, and being a female I'd know how that would feel if someone did that to me, so I'd never do it to them.

I personally DO NOT take sides. It doesn't matter if I am friends with both parties. I feel that if someone takes sides with one person, things start to turntable and quickly go downhill. I would not want to be stuck in the middle of that. So the best thing to do I feel is to stay out of it. I support both of the people, and I still see them as friends, but once you take sides its over. I cherish my friends, and I want to help them in any way that I can if they ask me for it, but I DO NOT want to be put in the position of being piggy in the middle. So I try to never get myself involved. I don't want people hating me because of something I had to do because I got involved. See what I mean?
You tell one person, you think its OK, but then that lie gets back to you somehow (they find out that you lied to them to protect the other person), or somehow someone will slip up and if I was that person that lied, it would get back to me, and then that person I lied to would hate me. I can't let that happen.

Everyone have problems, whether its relationships, friendships etc. We will always be there for each other, but my advice is to NEVER get involved. If your husband or boyfriend wants to lie and say ok I never saw your partner, or we never hung out, or whatever the situation, then let them. They will be the ones that suffer, NOT you!. But ....as i said...It shouldn't have to get to that point.
As long as you are honest in your relationship, and you trust each other then there should be no problem.
I love my husband with all my heard and I tell my him everything. He trusts me but I do it anyway. If I'm texting someone, I'll tell him who I'm texting if he asks, or I'll show him my cell even if he doesn't. (this is not to prove that he can trust me, but to show that I am being honest with him, and that I want him to see what I am writing to maybe give him peace of mind) And If I am chatting to someone online I'll tell him what were talking about. There should be no secrets between two people that love each other.
Life is hard but we stick at it. Relationships are better when both people talk about their problems to each other in a civil manner. One listens to the other then responds with their opinion or thought. If it isn't what the other person likes, then it is respected. Sometimes its better to come up with a compromise. That way both people get what they want but neither of them will know unless they talk to each other about it.

Live and learn, forgive and forget!!<3 br="">