Stuck in the middle??

Ever felt like you don't know which way to turn? That you feel you are forced to pick sides in friendship? It shouldn't be your responsibility, nor should you be in that situation. Friends are supposed to stick together yes, but when one is put in a position to lie to someones partner because of problems in their relationship isn't fair on that one person. How is someone supposed to feel when they could potentially lose both friends, just because the two people cannot sort out their problems between them themselves..
Its all good and well that you'd want to talk to your buddies about your problems but asking someone to LIE saying they never saw you when they did to their partner is not fair, and being a female I'd know how that would feel if someone did that to me, so I'd never do it to them.

I personally DO NOT take sides. It doesn't matter if I am friends with both parties. I feel that if someone takes sides with one person, things start to turntable and quickly go downhill. I would not want to be stuck in the middle of that. So the best thing to do I feel is to stay out of it. I support both of the people, and I still see them as friends, but once you take sides its over. I cherish my friends, and I want to help them in any way that I can if they ask me for it, but I DO NOT want to be put in the position of being piggy in the middle. So I try to never get myself involved. I don't want people hating me because of something I had to do because I got involved. See what I mean?
You tell one person, you think its OK, but then that lie gets back to you somehow (they find out that you lied to them to protect the other person), or somehow someone will slip up and if I was that person that lied, it would get back to me, and then that person I lied to would hate me. I can't let that happen.

Everyone have problems, whether its relationships, friendships etc. We will always be there for each other, but my advice is to NEVER get involved. If your husband or boyfriend wants to lie and say ok I never saw your partner, or we never hung out, or whatever the situation, then let them. They will be the ones that suffer, NOT you!. But ....as i said...It shouldn't have to get to that point.
As long as you are honest in your relationship, and you trust each other then there should be no problem.
I love my husband with all my heard and I tell my him everything. He trusts me but I do it anyway. If I'm texting someone, I'll tell him who I'm texting if he asks, or I'll show him my cell even if he doesn't. (this is not to prove that he can trust me, but to show that I am being honest with him, and that I want him to see what I am writing to maybe give him peace of mind) And If I am chatting to someone online I'll tell him what were talking about. There should be no secrets between two people that love each other.
Life is hard but we stick at it. Relationships are better when both people talk about their problems to each other in a civil manner. One listens to the other then responds with their opinion or thought. If it isn't what the other person likes, then it is respected. Sometimes its better to come up with a compromise. That way both people get what they want but neither of them will know unless they talk to each other about it.

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