I was having a conversation with my sister about life in general and it turned into an argument because she knew I was married and I was telling her that It came with a lot of responsibilities. I told her I was looking after my husband when he came home from work and her reply to that was looking after him? Why u looking after him, he is a 27-year-old man, not a 5-year-old child. "
The point that I was trying to get across was that no, I wasn't babysitting him or anything but I would make him dinner or a bath or if he had hurt himself I'd be the nurse and get the first aid kit out and fix him up. It wasn't that I was treating him like a child it's what any wife would do for their husband if they loved them. I told her she didn't understand how hard it is being a wife in general and especially being a military wife because we have more on our shoulders than any other wife does. We have to deal with our own lives and our husband's or wives and support them as well and be a strong person when they are gone for weeks to months at a time out to sea. I told her she wasn't being mature about the situation. Then she carried on to say that marriage was only a piece of paper and that she doesn't have to be married to be mature. Yes, u don't have to be married to be mature but the fact that she wasn't fully understanding the situation in general and my situation and what it's like for me to wake up every morning and my husband isn't there. She has her hands full anyway with her daughter and I fully respect and understand that but how dare she tell me how to live my life when she has no clue about marriage and what it really is. Marriage to me is MORE than just a piece of paper and means more. It's love, commitment, trust, honesty, respect, faithfulness, understanding, and the mutual connection with one another plus many other things. It's not just a piece of paper.
She is a 26-year-old woman and for her to say those things doesn't make her mature or trying to understand. She yelled at me to tell me to talk to my parents more. Sometimes I don't have time because of how busy us military wives can be with deployments and Making sure our significant others are good for work and that they have everything. They live in the UK so the time difference at the time they were 5 hours ahead. So the timing was also an issue as well. Now they are 8 hours ahead because we had moved due to military orders but I have to plan when I talk to them beforehand. I started talking on Skype to them every day or tried to just so my sister could get off my back about not being in contact with them because it pissed her off. I did what I could. She has been with her bf for 11 years and she doesn't want to get married and that's fine but she shouldn't tell me how I should live my life when I don't tell her how to live hers.
What are your thoughts on marriage and her opinion on it being just a piece of paper? Do u agree with me? Or with her?
She is a 26-year-old woman and for her to say those things doesn't make her mature or trying to understand. She yelled at me to tell me to talk to my parents more. Sometimes I don't have time because of how busy us military wives can be with deployments and Making sure our significant others are good for work and that they have everything. They live in the UK so the time difference at the time they were 5 hours ahead. So the timing was also an issue as well. Now they are 8 hours ahead because we had moved due to military orders but I have to plan when I talk to them beforehand. I started talking on Skype to them every day or tried to just so my sister could get off my back about not being in contact with them because it pissed her off. I did what I could. She has been with her bf for 11 years and she doesn't want to get married and that's fine but she shouldn't tell me how I should live my life when I don't tell her how to live hers.
What are your thoughts on marriage and her opinion on it being just a piece of paper? Do u agree with me? Or with her?
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